DATING TIPS

1.Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, be ready to commit to dating. Half-heartedness won't work. In fact, it won’t even get you half-way. If you really want to date, put some effort into it. Do some research and think about what you want out of dating. Prepare yourself for the inevitable rejection we all face at some point in dating and commit not to give up.


2.Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself, and others can sense that.


3.Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't try to be someone you’re not, but amplify and accentuate your positives. Throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. Your date will appreciate that you demonstrated some effort.


4.Think about what you want to gain from dating and what timeframes you expect. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do, then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.


5.Surround yourself with people who will support your dating aims. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Don’t sabotage this by sitting around with friends who are negative about love and relationships (often the married ones). Start attending social functions frequented by singles. Sitting alongside couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.


6.Choose those you have a good chance of dating. Be realistic. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous, great! Just know that others will expect you to be the same.


7.Join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups -- anything that might help you meet like-minded potential partners. You will not meet people by staying indoors and playing video games – many have tried and failed at this approach.


8.Take time off from dating occasionally if it’s not going well or causing dating fatigue. Recharging your batteries and keeping confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. We all hit rough patches, but don’t let your search for love become a death march. Date in phases if necessary.


9.Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not play a bigger part in your life down the road. The fact is, most people have something interesting to offer. While you may not be out on the dating scene looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.


10.Never make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. As part of keeping up the mystery, do not sleep with your dates early on. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. (And yes, this goes for both men AND women!) If the chemistry peaks too early, your emotions may never have time to catch up and the relationship will eventually wither away. 

MY FIRST LOVE

MY FIRST LOVE have you ever thought about this topic in your life or have ever generate the signs of love,well if don't so let's discover the signs of love people around you can't tell you what are the signs of love well i can't find any? i discover those signs on my own.
well if you want to find out what is love first you have to went through attraction and crush because they both are the biggest competition of love Why? because normal people can't tell you the difference between crush and love.so let's start and find out the signs of love but before it we have to know what is crush and attraction?


WHAT IS CRUSH?


Well Love crush is an oxymoron. A crush is typically someone you do not know very well, but are physically attracted to. To a certain extent "love" at first time in life might apply, but at that point in time the meaning of the word "love" is distorted.


WHAT IS ATTRACTION?


Attraction usually involves an instant decision of like or dislike, based on our own subconscious criteria. If we meet someone in person, we tend to size them up physically. If we meet through letters or phone conversation or internet chat, we tend to size them up, over a longer term, by how well they converse and how interesting (or complimentary) they are while we interact with them.


AND NOW COMES THE VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION WHAT IS LOVE?


Love is a feeling which is beyond attraction and beyond understanding of human mind
love is a feeling of joy, a feeling of oneness a feeling of home, a feeling of this is it, love can be felt even if u see the name of ur lover somewhere and attraction wants to have her/his feel her/his and want her/his and be possessive and angry and violent if u dont get it..........but when u love u can even enjoy seeing her/his happy..............in no matter what circumstances you are.......thats love and that can just be experienced.
SO as told you earlier love can not be described it can be only experienced.


Now you know the meaning og love,crush and attraction but still confused? don't worry let's carry on.


When i you fell in love with some one your whole mind diverts towards her/him.
for e.g; you always think about him/her, you just want to see him/her at any cost, get upset if you want meet him/her or even see her RIGHT?
you know i felt the same way when i was in your place that's why i am telling all this to you.
But now i have quite good experience about love.


Trust me guys if you are in love there is no rocket science required to discover your first love but still many people want to make sure if it isn't a crush,so let's clear it


you know thousands of people can't tell find out the difference betwee crush and love but attraction? any one can find out.Most of teenagers start there life with a series of crush.

A crush involves admiring someone from a safe distance. You feel a hugely powerful emotion, stronger than anything you've felt before. You obsess over this person. You would die for them. You think about them constantly. You are thrilled when you are near them and miserable when you are away from them. You desperately want to tell the person how you feel - but are frightened of it at the same time. this is what we call crush,If you're involved in a crush - enjoy it! We have ALL had crushes over the years and they're something you look back on with great fondness.Look at what makes your crush special. Those qualities that you admire in your crush are qualities that are very special to you, and it's very important to learn what those are.

Wile a love has no definition as a told you when you fell in love don't worry you will find out yourself that you are in love But many of my friends has give me the definition of love,


      
                   "WE LOVE BECAUSE IT'S THE ONLY TRUE ADVENTURE"


                    "LOVE IS BLIND,LOVE IS GREAT LOVE IS EMOTIONS,LOVE IS FAITH"


                     "TO BE IN LOVE IS TO BE IN STATE OF PERCEPTUAL ANESTHESIA"
       
                      "LOVE IS THE MASTER KEY THAT OPEN'S THE GATE OF HAPPINESS"
                         
    




These are some definition which my friends told me and they are quite good right?
Now you know the difference between love , crush and attraction now is the time for you to find whether he/she loves me or not.

LOVE ME LOVE ME NOT

Recently one of my friend ask me this question whether she love me love me not ? when he asked me this question i just gave him few tips which helps him to find out whether she love him or not. those same tips i am using here so that you could find out whether she or he loves you or not.


Although women are commonly compared to water where the fickle-mindedness is innate, however, when the matters of the heart are concerned, women are one faithful and loyal party you can ever find. Which means, if woman have feelings for a man, even if she do not tell him directly, she will certainly, even if subtlely but surely let him in through your words and actions that he means much more than just an ordinary friend to you. Here are some tips and rule-of-thumbs that you guys can use as a yardstick to measure the degree of her fondness for you. (Note however that this may not apply to every situation or everyone, especially where body language is concerned, it is of ultra importance that you have to read it as a whole, and not that action alone).



She replies most if not all of your text messages / short message send (sms) as we call it


Yes, and it applies as and when you send it. Even if it comes in the middle of the night, if she's still awake, and if she likes you, she will usually give you a reply. In those instances when she didn't reply you or replied late, she would give you the reason for the delay, for example stuck in a meeting, or rushing some work in the office, or she didn't hear the handphone alert.Because women tend to get very happy and excited when she receives some sort of communication initiated by the guy, and as a way of showing her happiness, she will respond to them immediately, if circumstances allow.

She reacts positively to your accidental touches.

Ok, whether is it an accidental brush or a deliberate caress, if she's into you, chances are she won't shove your hand away or shrug her shoulder or whichever body part that comes into contact with you physically. In fact, she may subconsciously or purposely brush you with her hands or arms to create more intimacy. Women are very sensitive to touch. So if a man whom she'd like to keep a distance touches her, all her senses get fired up putting her on an high alert mode, so she can prevent any of such "accidents" from happening. On the contrary, if she has fond feelings for you, then not only will she not push you away, she may even respond with a very shy and coy smile. Keep your eyes open guys!

Watch her pupils dilating.

Takes an expert to be able to catch this, plus you have to be standing close enough for you to notice these subtle changes in your girl's eyes (doesn't distance also tells you how special you are in her heart?). But it is an almost undeniable and unconcealable fact that one's pupils will get dilated when they see something they fancy, be it a person or an object. Hence the phrase "eyes light up"!

Narrow the gap.


Test her feelings towards you by moving towards her. If she likes you, it's either she remain where she is, or she may also nudge a little bit forward to close the distance between both of you.
But if she take a step backwards, be warned. Maybe she needs a little bit more time to get used to your presence. This could be due to several reasons, family background and upbringing is one, or she is just too shy, or she do not like you enough to allow you to go into her personal zone as she sees this as an invasion of her private space rather than a 'declaration' of love.
When she takes a step back, guys, please remember not to take another step forward. You do not want to start a cha-cha dance in the middle of the office with you doing the "chasing" and she "escaping". It sure looks comical if you tape it down and fast-forward it! Can you see the picture?

I can't make it tonight, But ..

Now, you have to pay attention if there is a "but" at the end of her rejection to a date. If she continuously rejects  .your date, without giving any reason or suggesting an alternative time and date, then chances are she is hinting you that you do not stand a chance and please stop bugging her.

But, yes, that's when the "but" comes in very handy as a glaring clue to you, if she suggests meeting up on another day, this means she wants to go out with you but she really couldn't make herself available at your preferred time and day.

One thing to note though. There are some girls who will never ever ask a guy out, even if its a platonic guy friend for a cup of coffee. So, if your special lady is one of this species, she may not suggest an alternate meeting time. But, what makes the difference between she liking you or not, is when you suggest meeting up another day, she will agree if she can make it. The latter will never agree as she finds it a waste of time.

She shows interest in your work or hobby


She may not have an avid interest in the minute details of the circuit board of the latest super computer. She may not understand the almost religious nature of the deep rumble of a true Harley-Davidson. But she will enthusiastically listen to you talk about it for hours and is even willing to accompany you to all the conventions that come to town.


She confides in you


She feels lighter telling you about things that are troubling her or weighing her down. You make her burdens easier to bear. She loves telling you every little detail about her day, something good that happened to her or why she's feeling particularly low. You're an essential part of her life; of course she loves you


She tries to make you happy 


She's a sucker for that smile on your face. She loves to do whatever it takes to see you satisfied and will go that extra mile. If she tries that little bit extra in whatever way, big or small, you can be sure she's madly in love with you.


Watch for signs of flirting. 


If she's flirting, she may be difficult to read. Flirting girls may flirt with guys who they consider to be just friends, and it can be misconstrued as a crush. Although some girls have no idea they are flirting. Most girls do not want to be obvious, the flirting ones might flirt with you a little bit less or they might flirt with you even more. Either way, don't "flirt around". Do not flirt with other girls. If she ever sees you putting your arm around another girl or sees another girl hugging you, she may jump to conclusions and assume she doesn't mean anything to you. And she has nothing you like or she doesn't act the way you like girls


Look at her friends.


 If you see most of her friends glancing back at you and smiling or giggling, this means that she is telling her friends about you. If her friends are loud and immature, you'll hear "(your name), (her name) likes you!" Her friends might be making it up, however, just to tease her. So you should probably listen to stuff like, "stop teasing me!" or "be quiet! He might hear!!" When she is having a conversation with her friends, and you come over, she might stop talking all of a sudden. This likely means you were the subject of the recently ended conversation. If she likes you and she told her friends about you, they might come up to you and start a random conversation about things such as: Who would you rather date me or (her name), who do you like better, who is the hottest, would you marry (her name) or me, etc. If they name a list of about 3 people and her name is in the list, she probably told her friends about you and they're trying to search for clues to see how you feel about her.


smile at her.


 Do a natural smile - don't freak her out. If she smiles politely, or frowns and looks away, she is obviously freaked out by you. If she returns a soft or big smile and continues to look at you, then she is interested. If she smiles then darts over to the crowd of her friends and hides in the group then she may be nervous and curious if you know that she likes you.




so these are some of the tips which i told my friend you can also try these it worked for him may be it also worked for you.